Your 5-year old daughter Sarah gets into a scuffle on the playground with Mathis, a boy of the same age. What began as a verbal altercation soon escalates into a heated physical dispute. You and Mathis‘ mother are on the playground as well, observing the scene. How would you react? What kinds of reaction possibilities are there to promote the development of democratic competence?
As adults, and particularly as educators and reference persons, children challenge us again and again with their behavior. They often exhibit behavior patterns that are incompatible with our values and even contradict them. Perhaps the most dramatic example for this is “aggressive behavior“.
Helpful further information:
The Center for Nonviolent Communication: https://www.cnvc.org/
Omer, Haim (2011). The new authority: Family, school and community. Cambridge University Press.
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Omer, Haim und Philip Streit. 2018. Neue Autorität: Das Geheimnis starker Eltern. Göttingen: Vandenhoeck&Ruprecht, 37 ff, 62.
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